Caution Against Assumptions: They’re Really Negative Beliefs In Disguise

Don’t make an ass of yourself by thinking that your problem with someone else is outside of yourself. It’s not.

It’s in your head.

Assumptions lead to judgements. Which lead to potentially going off the rails on a crazy train to destruction.

This means that when you make an assumption about someone, you’re throwing up a gigantic block to your own progress and growth.

Doesn’t matter if we’re talking about your personal relationships or business connections. You’re getting in your own way. The problem isn’t just in the other person, even if their actions or behaviors are more dysfunctional than a Jerry Springer highlight reel.

Until you talk with someone and see what is really going on, you don’t have all the facts to base your opinion on.

Ah, there’s the rub isn’t it? Facts.

Facts are that elusive thing we want to avoid because it might undermine our belief system. Hypothetically, you may have a belief that says Sheila was purposefully trying to undermine your project so that you wouldn’t get the raise and promotion you deserve. You know she’s been gunning for your position for a long time. Her latest episode in going behind your back to try and make you look bad is a…