Great point Doug, and this is a question that weighs on a lot of folks. Like you said, trying to "erase" a history of connection with someone overnight doesn't serve anyone. I do see value in not contacting your former partner after breaking up or separating to call your own energy back, focus on your own relationship with yourself and healing journey is healthy. Doing that to try and get something just perpetuates the cycles of codependency that doesn't deal with the real root that needs to be healed.