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How To Get Over Missing A Broken Relationship
If you’ve lost someone close to you in a breakup or divorce, there were probably aspects of that relationship that were unhealthy. And you likely contributed to the dysfunction.
Which isn’t to say that the end of the relationship is your fault.
But while you’re missing this person, it’s easy to forget the aspects about the relationship that were unhealthy. And it’s also tempting to wish you had them back because you miss having a partner to share your life with.
The crux of it all is that learning how to let go is a key part of learning how to Love and honor yourself. It’s the main theme in my book Be Solid: How To Go Through Hell & Come Out Whole.
Avoid getting locked in Stockholm
In this phase of missing, you can experience Stockholm syndrome. Where you think you’d rather have that person back in your life who caused you pain, hurt, and negative experiences because at least you had someone to be with.
I experienced Stockholm syndrome in processing the loss of my marriage about a year after everything started to break down. The loneliness was agonizing. But it wasn’t being alone that hurt so much.
My pain came from missing having the connection with my former life partner, being in…
