Interesting perspective on forgiveness. I've recently come to terms with some dynamics within my parental figures that caused a lot of heartache and grief, and (similar to you) reconciled what I know about their stories and upbringing to have a level of compassion and understanding that continuously leads to more and more forgiveness. Holding onto the past hurts only continues to hurt us. Forgiveness is really for our own wellbeing and healing, more so than any person we're forgiving.